Pathology of male and female relationships, with the illusory love approach

Sayyed reza Mosavi¹ Mahdi Vahidi Motlagh² Ali khajouei bazmandah³

1) Assistant Professor of Quran and Hadith Sciences, Department of Theology and Islamic Studies, Islamic Azad University, Gorgan, Iran. (Author). 09132479418
2) Doctoral student of Nahj al-Balagheh Science and Education, Maybod University, instructor of the Department of Islamic Studies, Islamic Azad University, Bardsir. Iran.
3) Master of History of Islamic Culture and Civilization, Lecturer of Islamic Education Department, Islamic Azad University, Bardsir, Iran. Ali.khajouei

IOI Code : XGBZ-HHDFZ
Publication : National conference of healthy family, healthy society(family-conf.ir)
Abstract :
    Abstract Sexual health and respect for intellectual and academic values in men and women relationship play important role in the psychological and social security of society and family. The prevalence of unhealthy relationships between men and women is considered a threat to moral values, mental and general health of the individual and society. Boy and a girl relationship is the one in which having sexual desires and functions, in verbal and non-verbal form, two opposite sexes present and receive a message the content of which mostly includes affection, intimacy and love. The purpose of this article is to present a model of reasonable and well-known relationships between men and women and express the personal and social harms of undesirable relationships between boys and girls in the context of rationality and monotheistic values with the illusory love approach. The method of this research is descriptive and content analysis. The results of the research are as follows: the logical and rational relationship between a man and a woman is that they communicate based on the principle of modesty and chastity. The relationship between boys and girls, outside the academic, rational and popular framework, will cause them to confront all kinds of harm. Some consider illusory love and emotional attachment to be love, whereas it is not love, but a deceptive secret that will cause irreparable damage to both of them. Parents and educators should try so that teenagers and young people with self-knowledge, awareness about God, cosmology, understanding of their eternity, understanding of the Qur anic human dignity and self-dignity do not get caught in the trap of destructive and opportunity burning relationships.

Keywords : islamic values boy and girl relations health of sexual behavior